How To Help Your Teen Through A Rough Patch

Help Your Teen When Life Is A Bit Rubbish For Them

Teens are simply horrible to bring up sometimes. They are a mess of raging hormones, tempers and pushing the boundaries. But at the same time, we all remember how tough it was being a teen. I remember sitting in my room all of the time because nobody understood me. Nobody cared about my feelings and nobody had time for me. So I think that is how my ‘pre-teen must feel sometimes. Do you often wonder how you can help your teen?

There are so many reasons why they might feel like this. It might be because they are having trouble at school with friends, or it might be that they are struggling with the lessons. This is the time when they really need their mum. They won’t admit it, as they see it as a sign of being a baby. But they do!

We were gifted products to help us to write this blog post about self-love and how to help your teen.

Spend Some One To One Time Together With Afternoon Tea

If your teen is an only child, then she is lucky to be able to have one-to-one time all of the time. But for the teens with several siblings, they probably yearn for some together time with mum. It doesn’t need to be off doing something expensive, it could be afternoon tea in the garden.

Even though the weather is getting colder, there are still warm days when you can go into the garden. You can sit on the patio and enjoy some time alone with your teen daughter. To make it an extra special time together, make up a little afternoon tea.

Afternoon tea is seen as a bit of a luxury, so it will make your teen feel so much better. When me and
Tilly have afternoon tea in the garden (or sometimes on the beach as it is across the road) we are asked where we get our cake stand. It is the London Pottery 2-tier cake stand and what I love about it is that it has raised sides to keep the food on the plate. The cake stand has a beautiful and timeless blue rose design and it has a huge looped carrying handle to carry it to where ever you want to take afternoon tea.

To make the perfect afternoon tea, you should make a variety of sandwiches that your daughter likes. Place them on the bottom of the afternoon tea cake stand. Also, put some of their other favourite savouries like sausage rolls, and cheese straws on there too.

On the top plate, you need to put some of their favourite cakes as well as some scones with jam. It is not afternoon tea without scones and jam. The Blue Rose cake stand that we have is perfect for an afternoon tea for two. This is a sure way to help your teen feel better when times are tough.

Teach Them About Self Love

You know that when you are feeling down and fed up, you always feel better if you have a pamper. In our house, we always have a selection of face masks, foot masks, bath bombs and lush bubble baths. As a parent, you will know there is nothing better than a long soak in the bath with a glass of wine. Add some candles and gentle music and it is absolute heaven! So get yourself a basket, add a few things that might make your teen daughter feel better and pop them in. You can buy face masks from most drug stores. We have this one from Sensory Retreats which is £3.95 on their website. Take it out of the packet, place it over your teen’s eyes and pop the loop over their ears to keep it in place. The face masks slowly heat up and get your teen to relax for 25 minutes. Put on some calming music and let them relax.

Self-love is important for your teen’s confidence and happiness. She might have fallen out with her friends at school. Or been dumped by her boyfriend. She might just be struggling with her erratic hormones.

When it is her time of the month, make her a little hamper with some self-love products, a bar of chocolate and some other things she might need. No words are needed, just hand it over to her.

Have A Little Chat To Each Other

Your teen might feel very alone in the world at the moment. And it might just be a few simple words that make them feel better than they are. There might be so much going through their little head and as the saying goes ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’. Sometimes a small smile to your daughter means as much as a chat.

Tilly has always known that she can talk to me about everything, but she still holds back. I think that is part of being a teenager and they easily close up and become quiet. Always reassuring Tilly that I am here for her and she can talk to me or her older sister about anything.

Help your teen by starting the conversations, think about how it felt to be a teen. Do not come in too heavy with your chat to open up the conversation. Take her out of the house so you can chat without the rest of the family hearing.