Tips For Staying Safe Whilst You Date

Dating is daunting, especially if you are like me and a 40 something single mum who was thrown back into the dating scene after a failed relationship. Dating is hard because you usually has some trust issues after a broken relationship and it is difficult to let other people into your life.

Once you are ready to start dating again, you need to make sure you keep yourself and your family safe. So how are you going to do this? We have some tips to help you get started in the dating world and keep yourself out of danger.

Online Dating

This is one of the safest ways to meet people and start getting to know them. You can usually check out your potential date on social media too. It's easy to set up profiles, but don't use your kids in photo's. This is about you and not them.

Dating Events

Organised dating events always put your safety first. You have really ticked all of the safety boxes if you choose this option because you are meeting in a public place. Especially as you will be with many likeminded people and as you only have a limited amount of time, to get to know the person. Its also good for those professionals that don't have time to go out and find a date. Speed Dating, London is perfect for this.

Get Someone To Call You

Many times over the years I have had people as well as my children phoning me up through a date. If it is going well, then I tell them that I can't go home to go to them. If it is going badly, then I tell them that I'm on my way to them.

Never Give Your Personal Details Away

Don't tell people your details of your life, about your kids and where they go to school. Don't give away anything too personal where someone could use that information to gain access to you.

Meet In A Public Place

Never arrange to meet a date near where you live or work. If things don't work out, then the disappointing date will know where you live/work so they can start to harass you. Always arrange to meet somewhere very public that you know, where people know you. That way, you also have people that will look out for you. If you wait outside for someone, make sure it's well lit and safe. If they arrive by car, never get in it. Stay where you know.

Don't Introduce Your Kids To Someone You Just Met

If you're a single parent, then this should be an obvious one. You should never have your kids photo on the dating profile or be introducing your kids to your date. Until you feel absolutely comfortable in a relationship. You can also check if someone getting close to your children, is on the sex offenders list. All you need to do is walk into a police station and quote Sarah's Law. They have to tell you if the person is safe around your kids

Never Leave Your Drink Unattended

Everyone should know this really. Leaving your drink unattended means you are at risk of having it spiked. This could lead to a very unpleasant experience in dating. If you pop to the loo, or outside for a cigarette, take your drink with you.

Take Your Mobile Phone With You

When you go out on a date with someone that you don't know, always take your phone. This will help people keep in touch with you and also you can be tracked if something untoward happens to you. You can add tracking apps to your phone, we use one called Life 360. You can have a family group on there and it tells people where you are all of the time.

Tell People Where You Are Going

This is an obvious one because you don't want to be going off with someone that you don't know. If you do go in your dates car, take a photo of it and send it to a friend.

Leave If It Gets Uncomfortable

Never stay on a date to feel obliged. If you feel comfortable, then you need to get out. If you feel confident enough, nip to the loo and phone a cab to collect you. If you feel extremely uncomfortable, notify a member of staff where you are. Many places have a scheme where you can ask to speak to Angela and they know you feel in danger. Of course, your date might just be boring as hell and you just want to leave.

Overall, your dating experience will be an adventure, it will be fun and it will be exciting. Enjoy it, but remember to stay safe.

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