You wake up. You get ready for work. You travel the same route to work that you’ve been taking since you got the new job three years ago, and you do the job you know how to do inside out for the required number of hours before returning home and having virtually no memory of what just happened. Some would call it groundhog day. Some would call it life. But is that enough? As the famous saying goes, you weren’t born to pay taxes and die. No one is going to give you the keys to self-fulfilment, even teachers or trainers who offer weekend getaways to stimulate personal growth can only help so much (click here for online pointers in personal growth). Ultimately, all learning is self-learning. Here’s how you can get out of your daily funk and water the seeds of change.
In with the good, out with the bad (people, that is)
Ever noticed that you don’t spend anywhere near enough time with the people who make you laugh and seem to respond to your ideas with positivity and support? Speaking from personal experience, old college friends that meant the world (and still do) were taken for granted and now live so far away that even a yearly catch-up is hard to come by. But that’s the thing about personal growth. It won’t just ‘come by’ on its own. Getting the right mindset is critical, or you’ll never be in the mood for change. This is hard to do, but try to focus on making conversations happen with the good people in your life, people with whom you resonate and people that listen. Cut out anyone (as much as you can) who makes you feel like you’re in an interview situation - they are using you for their own self-esteem.
Show off on social media, if you want
Time and time again, you’ll see advice along the lines of “don’t pay attention to the people living extravagant lives on social media, they’re probably all really unhappy and in debt up to their eyeballs”. A long time ago, I complained to my friend that I never seem to have any exciting photos on social media, compared to everyone else. A quick photoshop session later, and my friend sent me back a heavily doctored image of me, on the moon, in a 70s disco outfit, signing a record contract with Dr Dre. It was silly and it was just a bit of fun, but I posted it on social media anyway … with over 140 likes, that image became my most popular post that year. So, if you want to compete to feel good about yourself, do so. Personal growth can only begin when you don’t feel like you’re missing out on something else.
Re-discover who you wanted to be
This is the easiest thing to do because you will instantly know, in your gut, what it is that you’ve been missing out on all these years. Just think. If you always wanted to learn to cook in a particular style, or if you always wanted to try yoga, or if you always wanted to fly to Norway and watch the Northern Lights, the fastest way to stimulate personal growth is to rediscover that yearning and give yourself permission to explore the options. If you try to take up something brand new, you have less chance of sticking to it.